One of the things I struggle with the most is saying “no” to new projects or helping others. I’m not an overly enthusiastic people pleaser, but I do enjoy helping others and spending time with my friends. The problem with saying “yes” to everything means I’m saying “no” to something else – usually myself.
When I started working on self-improvement, I realized I wasn’t saying “no” as much as I should. I wanted to do everything and be everything to everyone, but in doing so I wasn’t putting myself first. I thought I was good at time management because I was fitting a lot in my day. But when I looked at how I was spending my time, I realized I wasn’t doing more things I “had” rather than doing things I “wanted” to do.
Before you say yes, consider the following:
How you spend your time is not anything to feel guilty about. It’s YOUR time. If you can’t do it, it’s okay to respectfully say no. Decide how much time you want to commit to helping others or taking on new projects or tasks that defer you from reaching your personal goals. And most importantly, be firm when politely declining these requests.
It’s okay to put YOU first.