I recently watched a video of myself from June interviewing a colleague at a corporate event. The first thing I thought when I appeared on screen was, “Is THAT what I look like?!” (and it wasn’t a good exclamation).
I’ve been working hard on eliminating self-hate speech for the last six months. I have a sticky note on my computer at work that says, “I am strong. I am beautiful. I will love myself today and every day.” I wear a necklace engraved with the words BE YOU. LOVE YOU. ALL WAYS. ALWAYS. I have daily positive quotes or affirmations to help me start the day with a positive mindset.
And then I watched one video, and it all went to shit.
Why are we so conditioned to speak negatively about and to ourselves? Is it really that hard to love what we see and who we are?
After a few moments of reminding myself that my body is a work in progress (a lifetime work in progress mind you), I calmed down and looked for the positives. My hair looked great. I was wearing a beautiful dress. I held my own in a room full of professionals.
Think about how you talk to other people, be it strangers or people you love. Would you tell your sister she could stand to lose some weight? Or would you mention to your best friend she can’t pull off her new hairstyle? Most of us would not, as it’s rude and not supportive. So why on earth would you say those things to yourself?
My challenge to you is to look at yourself in the mirror daily and find at least one thing positive to say about yourself for a week. After a week, find three positive things to say about yourself. And after another week, find five positive things to say about yourself. Putting this small change into practice could become a daily habit and will slowly help you change the way you view yourself.
It’s important to remember that no one is perfect. We’re all works in progress. Love who you are-inside and out-and treat yourself as the unique and beautiful human being you were designed to be!